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38. The art of letting go

On Sunday I had a really good session of badminton and as I walked back to the house, walking on the carpet of autumn leaves I thought to myself ‘I love this time of year when the trees show us how beautiful it can be to let go.’

One thing I have always been really happy about is that I have no regrets in my life. Everything that has happened or that I have done, good or bad, has been for a reason and if nothing else, I have learnt something from it.

I have been following a woman on Instagram, Hannah Martin, who totally rocks a lob ‘long bob’ haircut and I really wanted one. Every time I feel brave enough to chop my hair that much, I chicken out. Yes, there will be people out there who think it doesn’t suit me etc etc but how will I know unless I try? What is there to be scared of and well, hair grows back! At the same time my mind starting ticking because I knew I was going to cut quite a lot of hair off, I wanted it to be of some use to someone!

So I decided to donate my hair to The Little Princess Trust. They make wigs for children with cancer who have lost their hair. The possibility of giving a child some happiness and some confidence makes me so happy! It was time to let go of my hair, my anxieties and my need to please people. I wanted to do this, so I went for it!


The hairdresser was quite excited when I told her what I wanted to do! She double checked with me twice because I was taking so much off. Once I convinced her that I was sure, she excitedly put my hair into a plait to begin the process. A ponytail or a plait is required in order to keep the hair together. My plait came all the way down my back.


She said are you ‘ready’ I said ‘yes’ and took a deep breath. I closed my eyes and felt her cutting the plait off. My hair is like me, stubborn, so she had to keep at it for a few seconds before finally the plait came away. My remaining hair sprung free from the plait and I felt air rushing around my neck and shoulders! My head felt so light, it was amazing. I didn’t realise how much my hair weighed! I felt free!


I asked my hairdresser to make sure the length was such that I could still tie my hair up when I play badminton. She got it spot on. When she washed my new shorter hair, it felt amazing. So light, so fresh. I loved it!

The plait will now be sent off to the The Little Princess Trust, so I am really pleased about that and I love my new hair! I can’t wait to play badminton with it and see how much easier and quicker it will be to wash my hair afterwards! It looks so much healthier too! I am so glad I’ve done this!


My friends seemed to love it too, so I was really happy about that! I have been showered with compliments at work and by my family. It’s still me behind the hair…I feel very much myself and I feel very feminine.

Me with my chopped off plait!

Speaking of letting go. I am also hoping to let go of some of the bad habits I have picked up in badminton, like moving my arm from my side rather than from above when attempting a overhead ‘shot.’

I met a retired county player on the weekend. He was number 8 in the UK at one point. To me, he felt like a celebrity! He gave me some great tips. I feel like he has really changed my game. They might be subtle changes that only I realise but I really appreciate them. He told me to move my right foot back when I draw my racket up over my head and then when I swing, to bring both my right arm and my right leg forward with the motion. This has helped me so much. The movement is so much more fluid and I feel like I am keeping my arm up rather than to the side as this feels more natural with this movement. My group coach on Tuesday night noticed the difference as did I! I find myself practicing this everywhere now….while I’m walking to the printer in my office and even when I’m waiting for my train!


It’s not a bad thing to keep developing and learning. Sometimes this means letting go of what is not working for you. I feel like I am learning something new every day and I am ready to let go of what isn’t working for me.

Flowing water

9 thoughts on “38. The art of letting go

  1. Very brave and thoughtful action! I’m sure it will make a big difference to a child.

    Will be easier to manage your hair whilst playing too now.

    Hair doesn’t always grow back for some of us though!

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  2. You are so stunning with it long and even more with it shorter! Btw even after chopping all of that off it’s still not that short. It’s up to your shoulders! Do you use a special face wash? Your skin glows. x

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    1. Thank you. That is very kind! It is growing very fast! I only use water believe it or not. I do exfoliate sometimes, when I remember! My husband calls this the badminton glow! hehe 🙂


  3. Hang on let me get this right. You like sci-fi, you play badminton, you like pizza, you’re pretty (if you don’t mind me saying) and charitable? Are you for real?! 🙂

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